Raise your hands if you’ve ever being cheated on?
It’s a bit hard to imagine your lives will ever be the same after the betrayal but it can. Everybody deserves a second chance and It won’t be a science but it would be fair. So how do you work it?
- Try to share more interests.
- Work on compromising. Don’t let your significant other always get his way, and know that you shouldn’t get your way all the time either, even though you’re the one who has been cheated on.
- Go on a vacation together.
- Stop blaming your significant other. This may sound impossible, but if you really want to work on your relationship, you can’t mention the fact that your significant other cheated every two seconds. You can bring it up when you’re communicating about your feelings, but casual jabs about your significant other’s cheating behavior will only make things worse.
- Don’t obsess over the other man or woman. This is the easiest way to drive yourself completely insane and to ruin your relationship. If you know who the woman or man is or if you’re unlucky to have met her or him or to even run in the same social circles, do everything you can to avoid contact with this person. It’s natural if this feels completely impossible, but tell yourself that you should focus on your own relationship, not on what some other person is doing with his or her life.
- Don’t compare yourself to the other woman. Don’t let her make you feel bad about yourself or inadequate in some way. You don’t know her situation. Maybe she has fallen for your significant other, or maybe she had no idea he had a girlfriend. Just don’t even think about it.
- Don’t stalk the person your significant other cheated with on Facebook and other social media. Don’t search through his or her profile, looking for clues about what that person has that you don’t.
- Don’t stalk the person in real life. Obviously
- Don’t talk about the other person to your significant other. Focus on your relationship instead of dwelling on the past.
- If you’re really obsessing over the other person, you can talk to a friend about it, but you can only take that so far.
- It’s much better to end the relationship than to force yourself to stick around in something that isn’t working. Your resentment may only grow, and you could end up hurting the other person by cheating, or grow so emotionally distant that communication is impossible.
- Remember that even if the person has tried incredibly hard to be the best significant other after he or she cheated, it may have just been too late. Just because the person is trying hard now doesn’t mean you have to stick with it if you’re just not feeling right. You can feel proud that you tried to work through something incredibly difficult even though it didn’t work. That still took a lot of courage.